I was recently told by a friend that they were scared to find out the sex of their baby. They were so fearful they would get a girl and they desperately wanted a boy.

The thought was interesting to me, because it made me think about what a lot of people had been saying to me during my second pregnancy, “Are you sad you are having ANOTHER girl?”

No. Quite frankly I was THRILLED. I am so blessed to be given the opportunity to even have another child. I am so blessed to be able to carry a child, no matter how difficult, and bring that blessing into the world.

I was so thrilled to find out what I was having that immediately at nine weeks, I rushed and ordered the SneakPeek Test and took it because I wanted to know so badly. I wanted my child to have an identity and a name and start decorating their room.  

Was it because I wanted a boy so badly, and I already had a girl? No.

Why did I not care about what I was having? Because I truly believe each of us is given what we need.

I think we put so much pressure on ourselves to build the “perfect” family, and we all get so hung up on the idea of what we should have versus the reality of what we might have.

Both Allie and I have battled with miscarriages, and we will both be the first to say that once you have dealt with that kind of loss, you are so appreciative to have a child, regardless of the gender. Plus, neither one of us ever regret having our girls - they bring us so much joy!

Boys are full of snips and snails and puppy dog tails.

Girls are full of sugar and spice and everything nice (...well, sometimes, haha!).

Both are equally and wonderfully precious. Both will give our lives something different that we’ve never had before.

We are given what we need.

My family was meant to be my husband, myself, Ava, and Mia, and I wouldn’t change a thing.

Ava is wild and outgoing.

Mia is happy and sweet.

They both, in their own unique ways, contribute something to my family that wasn’t there before.

So whether you are trying to conceive, have conceived and are waiting to find out the gender, or have just found out the gender, do not be disappointed. Be elated that you have been given something so precious as the gift of life. Soon that little bundle of joy will become part of your family, and you wouldn’t want it any other way.

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